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I get asked this question quite often:
"- How are you so positive? What's your secret?!"
Which I answer by
"- I'm a good Actor!..."
Hold on, I'm not actually acting...I'm like everyone else, I have my own problems, the world ain't all sunshine and rainbows.
Let’s say that I find the optimistic viewpoint in a negative situation.
Give it a try, it could completely change your existence!
How to apply that in your everyday life?
Let's talk about it.
1) You are Optimistic
This is how I feel at the end of the week:
<< Oh my, I'm so happy! I had the perfect training week, back to ballet after a few months and I feel fantastic! Full of energy, it is so good to be back!
I could have said the exact same thing that way:
<< Oh my, I'm so tired! Back to ballet after a few months, it was terrible! So hard to be back! I'm exhausted! I can't walk anymore, my legs hurt! I'm getting old! >
I just gave you an example of how to stay optimistic. Although it is the exact same week, the way I feel about it is in reality just a question of point of view. I decide to focus on option number 1 and this is the only message I will send to my brain.
There are no secrets to remain positive, absolutely not, it is just a question of choice. This is why certain dancers are successful in what they do. They do have problems but they are not stuck on it, they are moving on because the way you react to problems is KEY. This is how you remain positive and happy. You just decide to be! Personally, I choose to see the bright side in any situation because there is a bright side, always.
Being positive also impacts your well-being and even your health! The benefits are incredible.
"Research conducted by the University of Sydney suggests people who think optimistically will recover faster from illness. People who think positively have a better chance of recovering from serious illness than those who don't, research suggests."
2) Focus On What You Want
The art of visualization.
It has to start somewhere, in your brain first.
If you are a dancer, how did you learn to do the splits? How? Seriously, pause for a moment and think about the answer...You have seen it in your mind! You might not realize it but you did! Everything starts there. Anything you want to be you must believe in it very hard. You must feel it and act like it's real.
This is also why you must stop saying: "I don't want [that] to happen to me..."
A good example:
<< My contract is ending in a few months, I didn't find another job yet, I'm so worried as I don't want to end up completely broke… >>
<< My contract is ending in a few months, I didn't find another job yet but I'm fine because I'm sure that I will find something else quickly to keep making money. >> This is called positive visualization.
It is the same situation but the outcome will be different in option 2. Nothing happened yet, however they see themselves finding a job quickly so what's going to happen in that case? They will find a job quickly and they will keep earning good money as they visualize it.
Don't think about "how," just think about the result.
When you focus on what you want rather than what you don't want, you only work through achieving your goal and nothing else. Also, you are motivated and way more proactive because you are not living guided by fears.
That makes a big difference and this is why certain dancers keep working without interruption. They think that way every day.
Get into this habit from now on, focus on what you want only, pay attention to the way you speak to others and even to yourself, I'm sure some of you have seen themselves in option 1, it's okay, I'm glad you are reading this article today because now you will only think about your desires.
And what if you fail? It's completely fine. I don't believe in failure, you learned a valuable lesson. You are allowed to make mistakes because you are trying and that's great!
3) Your Words are Powerful
I hear that all the time.
Even in the morning, people in the tube are tired, they truly are. Dancers at the barre, first training of the day: << I'm so tired >
If you decide to feel rubbish today, you will feel rubbish.
If you are constantly saying that you are tired, you are tired. If you keep saying that you are bad at cooking, you won't be able to cook a decent meal. If you verbalize that you are getting old, guess what? You are getting old!
Do not use certain words to describe yourself, especially when you are a performer. Those words can kill your spirit and even your talent! Yes, it does. Everything you put over and over again in your brain becomes YOUR TRUTH.
Are you talking like that? It's okay, it is never too late to upgrade yourself.
Personally, I'm never tired. Always full of energy, like a volcano! Always been this way and people know me for my vibrant energy. It is true that I do look after myself, I make sure to get enough sleep, I exercise regularly and I eat well but it is not the only reason. I don't use such negative words. I don't say them, I don't think about them either!
The same goes for: << I'm getting old >>. People blame their age for something they can't do or even worse they are calling themselves << old >> even in their 20's or 30's! Incredible but true!
What happens when you say those words? Your wish is my command!... You are tired and you are getting old every single time you pronounce them! Oh Yes! Can you imagine repeating those words every day? A few times a day for 4 years? Oh my, what a disaster!...
The last time I went to my hometown I met some good friends of mine after a few years and one of them said to me:
<<-How is that possible?! We are all getting old in here but you don't! Why is that?
-You are getting old because you just said it! And thanks for your words by the way!... >>
He's in his early 30's. It's a shame because he is still young but he feels old... Everything you say about yourself, everything you think is what you become, you are creating this reality because you are also sending these terrible messages into the universe and to your brain!
Instead try positive affirmations such as:
I am Healthy
I am feeling Fantastic
I am Rich
I am Generous
I am Amazing
I am Lucky
I am Young
I am Beautiful
I am Handsome
I am Successful
I am Talented
I am Loved
I am Smart
I am Strong
I am Unique
I am Gifted
I am Blessed
You can be anything you want to be.
In the beginning, you might feel a bit awkward to repeat those words to yourself because we have a tendency to take these terms for self-flattery or arrogance but it is not!
There is nothing wrong with cheering yourself up!!!
You can't see it now but if you speak like that about yourself on a daily basis soon it will become your reality.
This is called...
4) The Law Of Attraction
The Law of Attraction, myth, or reality?
I've experienced many unexpected events in my life and I strongly believe in the law of attraction:
"In the New Thought philosophy, the Law of Attraction is the belief that positive or negative thoughts bring positive or negative experiences into a person's life."
It is all about what you send into the universe.
Believe it or not, it is working. I lived once in my life as a negative person, I wasn't happy because I was forced to do something I didn't really want to and for 4 months I lived that way.
Negative thoughts every day and I quickly felt miserable and it all manifested into my life: the biggest injury of my career, I couldn't dance for 5 months, then I gained nearly 13 kg, I was completely broke and obviously very unhappy... I now know that this experience was actually a blessing in disguise. For the first time in my life, I had to reconsider the way I was thinking, and I took action to change that.
That incident was an eye-opening experience. I've seen the power of my thoughts and words manifesting into my world... Learn more about this journey in my previous article:
Just try that, get up tomorrow morning and repeat these words: "I'm feeling amazing, full of energy and I will have a fantastic day!" and see the results for yourself...!
You might be amazed by the power of your mind.
Successful dancers are those who decide to be happy and successful as they understood that law. It doesn't mean that nothing bad is happening in their lives, it certainly does but the way they react to it is different...They decide to rise above that by focusing on the future and learn from their mistakes. For their own good. They send positive thoughts into the universe, therefore they live positive lives.
It doesn't mean that you just have to think to be blessed, no, you also need to take inspired actions. If you only want good to happen to you, think about it, focus only on what you want and on how you'd feel if you had what you wanted right now.
- If you would like to learn more about the Law of Attraction and how to use it, read this book:
"The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne. I read it twice and it completely changed my world!
5) Inspired Action
Let's talk about it. I mentioned it in one of my previous article, one of the most popular on this blog, if you haven't read it yet check it out later on:
Being positive is crucial because you can't live your dream life with negative thoughts.
You must take action now that will move you towards your goals.
This is what successful people do on a daily basis. They are not just dreamers, they are optimistic and they also know that they have to make the next move to make things happen.
If you want to be a great dancer, if you want to book this job, for instance, you know you must be optimistic about it and also work on it actively. You will go to class regularly, you will train your body, you will look after yourself to make yourself the best you can, then you will get an audition and you will smash it!
These are inspired actions. Combined with positive thoughts the result is INCREDIBLY POWERFUL.
It works for everything, anything you have in mind, any goal you want to achieve in your life.
This is how successful dancers achieve great things. They are not better than you, they are not different, okay some people are excellent in what they do but it is not just that... If they did it, you can do it too!
People think way too much. They want everything to be perfect, they think over and over again to make sure they don't make any mistakes.
That's the actual mistake.
Don’t let "what ifs” and your fears dictate your life. Do not think of all the reasons why any projects you want to start couldn’t work! Just do it!
Visualize the small steps to get you closer to the big picture and ACT.
That's what successful people do...Don't overthink things! It might not be perfect, it's totally ok! You will fix it along the way. Get into the habit to see everything you do is reversible. You can change and adapt anything you want overtime because you are in charge.
Reasoning this way as early as you can tremendously help your career.
It is better to start something 50% ready rather than not doing anything at all.
You Are Your First Client
As I mentioned in one of my previous articles, you must believe in yourself if you want people to believe in you.
I know how difficult it can be to promote yourself when you can't see your value, if you are in this situation I want you to know that you are unique and you might not see it today but you do have something to offer too.
You are gifted. You must be particularly good at something or you have that special skill, use it! If you want your career to move on to the next level, you must go out there and utilize the fantastic tool we have today to promote yourself.
This makes a big difference between people who succeed in what they do and those who unfortunately don't.
If you are concerned about your future right now don't worry at all, you are reading this article and luckily those words will inspire you.
I recommend this great book, if you feel that "fear" of doing stuff, this book will definitely help you:
- "Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway" by Susan Jeffers, a must-read to gain that precious confidence.
7) Like-minded People
Are you surrounded by pessimistic people?
Are they doubting you? Perhaps they are your friends or even your family members. As soon as you are telling them about your goals, they make you feel like you can’t succeed... Is that right? I’m sure it comes from a place of love but they don't realize the power of their words.
The important question here is: Are you listening to them? Are you taking any advice on your career from them? Please don’t.
If your closest friends or family members constantly put you down, please speak to them. Be sincere about it, tell them that their lack of support is not helping you at all and that you feel affected by such discussions. If they genuinely love you they will make some changes and will become the positive people you need in your life.
You should find like-minded friends. People who aspire to the same things in life. You share identical beliefs so you are supporting each other and consequently you are moving forward together!
Be discreet in order to achieve what you want. Any audition, casting or any business plan you have, keep it to yourself as much as possible.
8) Thank you
People underestimate the power of these words: << Thank you >>.
Being grateful for everything you possess is a major pillar of a fulfilled and happy life. This is another trait shared by many successful people. They are grateful, they say thank you regularly.
It’s easy, say it: "Thank you so much for my health". If you understood the Law of Attraction or if you believe in Karma I know you get it. This quality will increase your happiness and will get you closer to your goals.
The same goes for complaints. Your worst job, your awful house or your terrible food is luxury for someone else. Some people die trying to be as lucky as you are! If you live in the West you must realize how rich and fortunate you are. We have freedom, peace, resources, employment, and plenty of food. We are so blessed.
Being grateful for what you have is the ultimate way to live at peace with yourself and to help your community.
Surprisingly this state of mind will also improve your finances!
- You must read the following book! Don't judge it by its cover, it is way deeper than that…
"Happy Money" by Ken Honda, enlightening! an excellent read! l just love it.
Say thank you, be grateful for all the blessings you've been given and more success will come your way!
The Art of Visualization...
This is how you will stay motivated. No matter what life throws at you, follow these tips and you will always move forward.
Remain positive in every situation for your own good, free yourself from self-judgment and you will stop doubting your value in this world.
Visualize the person you want to be, this person is right there, inside of you.
Always look on the bright side of life and you will shine forever.
Thank you for reading, please share with your friends and family!
Photos: Bekka Mongeau, Guilherme Almeida
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